whimpysmom (12:48:21 PM): in a nutshell
whimpysmom (12:48:36 PM): tom's mom and grandmother came over last night to watch kingston so that we could go to a movie
whimpysmom (12:48:41 PM): i fandangoed tickets
VixenContrdction (12:48:49 PM): uh huh.
whimpysmom (12:49:04 PM): and i have an account all set up with my bank card on fandango
whimpysmom (12:49:28 PM): however, i left my bank card at pottery barn on friday, but have been using the card that my mom has since it's a joint account
whimpysmom (12:49:40 PM): but i didn't realize that the numbers on the cards were different
VixenContrdction (12:49:48 PM): ugh.
whimpysmom (12:50:10 PM): so when we got to loews last night, i went to get the tickets and the woman at the desk informed me that the card info wasn't correct.
VixenContrdction (12:50:21 PM): oh shit
whimpysmom (12:50:25 PM): so i tried to just purchase tickets but the 10:30 show was sold out
VixenContrdction (12:50:31 PM): aw man
VixenContrdction (12:50:37 PM): for kill bill?
whimpysmom (12:50:39 PM): so i went over to tom and lauren to tell them what happened
whimpysmom (12:50:40 PM): yeah
whimpysmom (12:50:55 PM): and to try to figure out if we wanted to wait around for the 11:45 show
whimpysmom (12:51:45 PM): see, lauren had cash that we could use to pay for more tickets and then we could just redeem the fandango tickets next weekend for something else
whimpysmom (12:51:55 PM): but i couldn't get that far in my explanation
whimpysmom (12:52:06 PM): because tom storms over to the guest services desk
whimpysmom (12:52:17 PM): and lets loose this stream of obscenities that i've never heard before
whimpysmom (12:52:20 PM): it made me ill
VixenContrdction (12:52:23 PM): oh no!
VixenContrdction (12:52:31 PM): jesus
VixenContrdction (12:52:35 PM): FUCKING MEN
whimpysmom (12:52:40 PM): the whole theater stopped and was silent and just listened to tom cuss at this poor woman
VixenContrdction (12:52:40 PM): argh
whimpysmom (12:52:56 PM): and i'm standing a few feet away screaming “TOM TOM STOP IT RIGHT NOW”
VixenContrdction (12:53:03 PM): omg
whimpysmom (12:53:23 PM): but he leaves, security AND the homestead police are called, because for all they know he's drunk or something
whimpysmom (12:53:33 PM): and i'm standing there bewildered
VixenContrdction (12:53:38 PM): holy shit
whimpysmom (12:53:46 PM): i went over to the woman and apologized
whimpysmom (12:53:56 PM): and she was relatively nice about the whole thing
whimpysmom (12:54:30 PM): then we go outside and tom is surrounded by the manager, a police officer and a security officer
whimpysmom (12:54:58 PM): and he's sounding like some crotchety old dood and saying how he's a dissatisified customer and all of this bullsht
VixenContrdction (12:55:11 PM): omg
whimpysmom (12:55:15 PM): and basically the manager said that's too bad but that we're not welcome back at loews
VixenContrdction (12:55:27 PM): all of you?
whimpysmom (12:55:34 PM): then the police officer, for no apparent reason, turns around and starts cussing at lauren
VixenContrdction (12:55:41 PM): OMG
VixenContrdction (12:55:48 PM): that's real professional
whimpysmom (12:56:24 PM): and she says something like “fuck you” and i'm standing there silent thinking “this isn't happening, this is not happening”
whimpysmom (12:57:01 PM): so all of a sudden we leave, and we're walking briskly back to the car and some fucking teenagers, totally unrelated to the incident, stop and start harrassing me
whimpysmom (12:57:37 PM): they're like, “what's up, white bitch? you're fucking ugly, get the fuck out of my face blahblahblah”
VixenContrdction (12:57:39 PM): what??!!
what did they do?
VixenContrdction (12:57:45 PM): OMG
VixenContrdction (12:57:54 PM): then what happened?
whimpysmom (12:57:58 PM): and i thanked whatever god that i wasn't armed
whimpysmom (12:58:23 PM): gave them the finger and walked to the car. thankfully they left me alone, because i was mostly worried that tome was going to drive off and leave us there
whimpysmom (12:58:43 PM): it was unbelievable. like for a half hour last night society just totally broke down
whimpysmom (12:59:03 PM): so we get in the car. and things are silent for a minute and then tom starts
whimpysmom (12:59:05 PM): bitching
VixenContrdction (12:59:06 PM): i'm so sorry.
whimpysmom (12:59:27 PM): and we get in this humungous argument over economics, existentialism and white privilege
whimpysmom (12:59:36 PM): because we're overeducated dorks
whimpysmom (12:59:52 PM): and i silenced tom with my amazing philosophical skills
whimpysmom (1:00:08 PM): but then we get home and the baby's up even though it's 11 p.m.
VixenContrdction (1:00:19 PM): man. guys can really just be so.. god i don't even know.
VixenContrdction (1:00:23 PM): good for you!!
whimpysmom (1:00:24 PM): and my mom, tom's mom, his grandmother and kingston are all in my room
whimpysmom (1:00:40 PM): and he starts telling them about how he got ripped off and blahblab
VixenContrdction (1:01:23 PM): what?!!??
whimpysmom (1:01:29 PM): and so i, with his family and mine to support me, told him that regardless of the situation, that kind of behavior was UNACCEPTABLE and that if i wanted that kind of bullshit, i would go live with my father or his father, because they both acted exactly like that
VixenContrdction (1:01:55 PM): nice!
VixenContrdction (1:02:03 PM): at least you had backup
whimpysmom (1:02:07 PM): yeah.
VixenContrdction (1:02:16 PM): i hate trying to argue with frank sometimes
whimpysmom (1:02:30 PM): i went on this long rant about how abusive patterns repeat and that i know that he doesn't want to turn out like his father
VixenContrdction (1:02:46 PM): because all of those years of “you're right frank” really come out.
VixenContrdction (1:02:48 PM): yeah
VixenContrdction (1:02:54 PM): so was he responsive?
whimpysmom (1:02:58 PM): and that, existentialism again, he has to CHOOSE not to be like that because it's in his blood to just do that
whimpysmom (1:03:13 PM): he still went on about the money and we more or less ignored him
VixenContrdction (1:03:15 PM): absolutely
VixenContrdction (1:03:30 PM): gah. do you think he heard you though?
whimpysmom (1:03:34 PM): but i can tell that he feels really bad about it today
VixenContrdction (1:03:46 PM): that's good.
whimpysmom (1:03:51 PM): he's like real apprehensive aroudn me
whimpysmom (1:03:59 PM): and tries to make jokes about it
whimpysmom (1:04:17 PM): but i just tell him that it's not funny
whimpysmom (1:04:20 PM): at least not yet
VixenContrdction (1:04:33 PM): yeah.
whimpysmom (1:04:39 PM): i mean, i know him, and i know that he'll always insist that his rant was justified.
VixenContrdction (1:04:48 PM): yeah
whimpysmom (1:04:51 PM): but it's not even the real issue at hand
VixenContrdction (1:04:53 PM): that's so exhausting
whimpysmom (1:04:58 PM): my concern is with his behavior
whimpysmom (1:05:05 PM): at least toward me and kingston
whimpysmom (1:05:26 PM): i asked him if he would go off like that at me for something
whimpysmom (1:05:38 PM): and he was like no it's different and i asked him how do i know that?
whimpysmom (1:06:03 PM): if he's willing to flip out on a perfect stranger over 30 bucks, what will happen when/if he and i have serious problems
VixenContrdction (1:07:09 PM): yeah
VixenContrdction (1:07:14 PM): ugh
whimpysmom (1:07:27 PM): so i think that really hit home with him
whimpysmom (1:07:42 PM): and i encouraged his mom to really lay into him, because she doesn't enough and really never has
VixenContrdction (1:08:14 PM): that's good. it's just so exhausting knowing that you have to be responsible for reinforcing a different behaviour and all that.
whimpysmom (1:08:34 PM): yeah.
VixenContrdction (1:08:51 PM): i feel so powerless against frank sometimes when i'm trying to mnake my point
whimpysmom (1:09:16 PM): sometimes i get really irritated and i want to say to his mom, “hey lillian, on behalf of the gender, i just want to say THANKS A FUCKING LOT FOR PUTTING YET ANOTHER QUALITY MALE OUT THERE FOR YOUR FELLOW WOMEN TO DEAL WITH YOU FUCK!”