Comments on: compromises, i’ve made a few

By: Mindy

Mindy — Fri, 12 Jun 2009 15:29:05 +0000

@Mindy, @Zoot, @kdiddy, I give you my Laundry FAIL.

By: kdiddy

kdiddy — Fri, 12 Jun 2009 14:08:22 +0000

@Zoot, dude, cleaning doesn't stand a CHANCE at my house. and, yes, my husband could help more but he doesn't and I could make that An Issue, but I choose not to because life is too short. I am serious about taking pictures of my laundry situation, though. I HAVE NO SHAME.

By: kdiddy

kdiddy — Fri, 12 Jun 2009 14:06:01 +0000

@Snarky Amber, “I mean how the FUCK is that woman not babbling on the street with a shopping cart?”

m’dear, you have no evidence that I’m not.

By: kdiddy

kdiddy — Fri, 12 Jun 2009 13:57:03 +0000

@Mindy, you’re on! I’ll take a picture of mine when I get home.

By: kdiddy

kdiddy — Fri, 12 Jun 2009 13:56:33 +0000

@Mindy, “we have never addressed the fact that our being home isn’t necessarily by CHOICE” this is something I would really like to hear addressed more often, for all of the reasons you list. In between graduating college and getting a part-time job (that later became my full-time job), I was trying to get daycare in place before finding work. but, as you probably know, that’s impossible. and getting state aid for daycare was also out of the question because my husband and I weren’t married then and didn’t have a child support arrangement because we were just…together. It’s very easy (easier than it should be) to find yourself totally stuck and out of ideas of what to do next.

by the way, I hope that you and other panelists don’t feel like I (or anyone else with these gripes) were picking on YOU guys for having different situations. I was just grumpy that only one working mom situation was presented.

By: Black Hockey Jesus

Black Hockey Jesus — Fri, 12 Jun 2009 13:31:51 +0000

Being a Mom is a momumental task.

By: Mindy

Mindy — Fri, 12 Jun 2009 12:53:00 +0000

@Zoot, I have been getting dressed out of the laundry basket for ten years. I don't think I even open drawers anymore. We should all share photos of our laundry FAILs.

By: Mindy

Mindy — Fri, 12 Jun 2009 12:49:02 +0000

@Cheryl, If I could find a job, I’d be a WOHM in an effing second!

One thing that drives me crazy about these conversations is that for purposes of time and editing for continuity, we have never addressed the fact that our being home isn’t necessarily by CHOICE. No job, no money for daycare. No job, plenty of time to get showered and dressed for two hours a week to film an episode. No job, good luck with insurance.

I’ve come to the conclusion that the only way I’ll ever be able to take care of my family is to marry rich, and unfortunately, that’s tacky.

Oh, and having “mom” somewhere in the name helps with searches and site optimization. : ) As I’ve learned from being the first to call her site The Mommy Blog. Who knew it would become a genre?

By: Maureen

Maureen — Fri, 12 Jun 2009 12:43:09 +0000

Wow, I’m so glad to see all these other moms who feel the way I do. No one at my work is in the same situation I am–with a small child in daycare (and the horrible guilt that still causes), expecting another child, working on my writing in my “free” time, keeping up with chores at home, and never accomplishing any of it all that well–and all the moms I meet outside of work stay at home, and, while I’m sure they have their own frustrations, I caqn’t exactly relate to them. I’m sure we’re all doing what we can. It’s just so nice when I read of others who experience my kind of daily crazy.

By: Zoot

Zoot — Fri, 12 Jun 2009 04:09:46 +0000

Bah. EXACTLY. AMEN! ME TOO!

I think I get frustrated by the lip service: “It is possible to be successful in your career and be a great Mom!” And yes, in theory, depending on your definition of success: It is. But let’s be realistic: If you are doing BOTH – then things get missed. My house would be cleaner if I didn’t work outside the home. My kids would be cleaner too. On the other hand, I’d make more money at my job if I didn’t have kids b/c I could dedicate myself to it for more hours a week.

Let’s talk more about the “not cleaning” part. I’m so glad that is what gets cut off your list too. I keep things picked up, so I can find things, but clean? NEVER. Bathrooms? Gross. Kitchen? Disgusting. Bedroom? Tornado.

But you know what? I think we’re both pretty awesome.