Comments on: for my son, as you become a man

By: Meredith

Meredith — Tue, 10 Nov 2009 01:33:37 +0000

Wonderfully said.

By: Sex with Timaree | Dr. Marc Lamont Hill

Sex with Timaree | Dr. Marc Lamont Hill — Wed, 04 Nov 2009 13:25:10 +0000

[...] Talk to your sons and nephews (and cousins, etc) about rape. Tell them from day one that any behavior that treats women degradingly is unacceptable and something men only do when they can’t prove their manliness through any productive means. [...]

By: Ms. B

Ms. B — Tue, 03 Nov 2009 15:03:36 +0000

Hurray for this Mom and other Moms that really sit down and talk to their children!!! Especially the boys! I am a young grandmother and was a very young mom. I was and still am a mom who holds nothing back when it comes to talking to my girls and my boys! Incidents like this happen very often (a nearby school in my area 5 boys (ages 11-13) assaulted a 11 yr. old girl), and the first thing the mother says is “Not my son!”…My question to them is did you ever sit down and really talk to your son? Or did you run to the nearest store, purchase him a video game of extreme violence – trying to win brownie points with him…then later wondering why your kid is in trouble?? Anyway…very good article!!

By: Dustin

Dustin — Tue, 03 Nov 2009 02:59:32 +0000

Oh my goodness, thank you so much for this!!! I’ve never thought of having such an explicit discussion with my two sons about this, but after reading this post (linked to from Sara), you can bet I will. Thank you very, very much.

By: Christy Anthony

Christy Anthony — Mon, 02 Nov 2009 01:45:55 +0000

Thank you. I think so often women see the awesome responsibility of raising a daughter to value herself as a woman. So important that we also identify the importance of raising a son to value women.

By: Joe

Joe — Sun, 01 Nov 2009 23:41:50 +0000

Outstanding – absolutely outstanding. What a wonderful, beautiful, caring gift to give your son.

By: miep

miep — Sun, 01 Nov 2009 21:38:16 +0000

sara linked here, and my eyes teared up as I read this post. I’m nursing my baby son as I type, and I thank you for the bottom of my heart for having this talk with your son and for reminding me that I must do the same.

By: brandi

brandi — Sun, 01 Nov 2009 19:30:20 +0000

man, what a horrible, terrible thing to have happen, but thank you so much for writing this. i hope other mothers are having these conversations with their sons, too.

By: Toysoldier

Toysoldier — Fri, 30 Oct 2009 18:39:43 +0000

I hope in your effort to inform your son about rape that you also tell him that it is equally not okay, equally not excusable and equally horrific for girls or women to rape boys or men, and also that you warn him that he, despite being a boy, in no way deserves to be raped by a woman or a man.

By: The Point

The Point — Fri, 30 Oct 2009 16:11:42 +0000

I’m heartbroken over the incident that forced you to think about it, but I thank you for this post.