Comments on: i don’t feel so capable

By: ozma

ozma — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 07:23:42 +0000

Oh kdiddy, I got kind of teary eyed. Like, hello fellow traveler.

I am feeling incapable. It’s hard. I’m sorry you are going through this. No one can be capable all the time. But yes, yes, and yes. And damn. I hope it gets better.

By: Laurie

Laurie — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 06:54:20 +0000

You’re so not incapable (you are everything that child needs, I know it) but I know that feeling well right now.

I am afraid of throwing up. I cry just about every time, still, it upsets me so much. (Hello, fra-gee-lay.)

Hoping things get better soon.
.-= Laurie´s last blog ..Untethered. =-.

By: Austin

Austin — Thu, 04 Mar 2010 20:37:38 +0000

Definitely overwhelmed.

I used to teach preschool so I’ve been privy to more than my share of disgusting bodily fluids all up in mah biz. It is gross and sometimes dry-heavey (I just made up a word!). And I’m not even a parent yet.

You know what? NO ONE CAN TELL if you turn your head away while they are barfing so you don’t see/smell it as much. You can still hold their hair and rub their back and murmur comforting nonsense at them and it all has the same effect as it would if you were peering over their shoulder. I mean, this isn’t a total goldmine of information because there’s no real avoiding if they don’t hit a toilet/bucket/trash receptacle that makes for easy clean up. But my point is, give yourself some wiggle room here. You’re doing fine and I’m sure there are things about parenting that your husband has a hard time dealing with that he hands off to you.
.-= Austin´s last blog ..It’s a Starbucks kind of morning =-.

By: jive turkey

jive turkey — Tue, 02 Mar 2010 14:37:11 +0000

Overwhelmed.

Like you & some of the commenters above, I don’t deal well with vomit. I get the shaky knees and the panicked, non-blinking eyes and everything. I was terrified of morning sickness when I got pregnant (I luckily never actually barfed), and was even scared I wouldn’t be able to handle infant spit-up (I was fine…but I’m sure the sheer exhaustion helped). I don’t know what it’s going to be like handling the actual kid-sized barf…but for what it’s worth, I always think about you when it comes to that, because I remember reading here before that you are a fellow vomit-phobe, and you are still a good mom. So thanks.

My main motivation for aiming to keep my calm in future vomit scenarios is so my daughter doesn’t end up like me. What a pain in the ass being afraid of barf.
.-= jive turkey´s last blog ..Wha’ Happened? =-.

By: rachelraven

rachelraven — Tue, 02 Mar 2010 01:19:36 +0000

The nurse in me can clean up nugget barf AND eat nuggets at the very same time. I can go from shoveling food in my piehole to cleaning up tube feed regurg in the blink of an eye. I’ve been pooped on, peed on… the only smell that gets to me a bit, and not severely even but more than any other out there is the smell of oozing edema from very sick sick people. Can’t describe it, but you know it once you smell it. Oh, and necrotizing fasciitis and gangrene are pretty icky. And actually, barf when it’s past barf is kinda sickly smelling, too… you know, when it’s not food barf, but now it’s just hot, bile barf. Ah, who am I kidding? Unless it was a corpse in 90F weather all maggot encrusted, not much makes me hurl anymore. Stomach of steel.

And I’d say you’re just overwhelmed… and maybe a bit wintered out at this moment.

By: mouthy_broad

mouthy_broad — Mon, 01 Mar 2010 22:13:57 +0000

overwhelmed.

anything i can say will just sound lame and trite.

By: Sara

Sara — Mon, 01 Mar 2010 21:09:15 +0000

I grew up with a major vomit phobia. I wasn’t just grossed out… I was terrified of it. Seeing it, smelling it, doing it, seeing/hearing others do it. I was afraid to watch movies because there might be a vomiting scene. I didn’t go on class trips if I could help it because there was always one kid who got sick on the bus. I would sometimes cry myself to sleep because I was so sad I would never be able to have children. As an adult, my phobia has morphed into something more manageable, but the threat of vomit still scares the bejesus out of me.
.-= Sara´s last blog ..Not just for hippies anymore =-.

By: pgoodness

pgoodness — Mon, 01 Mar 2010 20:36:29 +0000

Definitely overwhelmed. I had to clean up some the other day and very nearly threw up myself. Would've handed over the reigns in a heartbeat! .-= pgoodness´s last blog ..59/365 =-.

By: Dena

Dena — Mon, 01 Mar 2010 20:35:10 +0000

I’m the same way – I refer to it as my phobia. Right up there with flying in airplanes. I was lucky to be given such a good “sick-kid” – when my daughter is sick, she pretty much takes care of herself. And I feel like an awful parent (her only parent) because I have a difficult time with it. But like any parent, we get caught off guard.

On another note – try not to be so hard on yourself. I’m going through a depression of my own right now and know that things will be what they will be, no matter how hard I struggle. I recently told a friend of mine who’d been hospitalized for a severe anxiety attack to read the Serenity Prayer. If it doesn’t make sense to you now, it will one day. Then it will every day after that. Take care…go easy on yourself.

By: RockyCat

RockyCat — Mon, 01 Mar 2010 20:27:45 +0000

It’s tough when life just keeps piling on the bad. Hang in as best you can – the tide will surely turn.

Oh, and I can’t deal with my OWN puke, let alone someone else’s, so I’m totally with ya there.
.-= RockyCat´s last blog ..Winter =-.